December 23, 2011
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What Is A Hug??
Hug……vb; embrace affectionately: to put ones arms around somebody’s body and hold the person tight to show affection or pleasure. keep close to something: to remain in close linear proximity to something.
We are strange creatures. Our needs are almost totally in sync with all the wild beast of this planet except for one flaw……we need hugs. I’m a robust, hairy jawed 300 pounder with the competitive appetite of a cluster of wildebeest and the beer thirst of a lost company of Legionnaires in the Moroccan dessert. I have needs! But, all that means nothing if I don’t get my daily hug from Wifey. Bonus days include hugs from the grandkids and maybe the Greek guy that lives next door, but that’s another matter. Hugs are important to all of us and I don’t care how callas and hard ass you are….we all need hugs. Even trolls, within limits.
Some say it’s a mystical thing like maybe it’s our kindred spirits or even regurgitated Karmas that are bonding us at the moment of a hug. I think….maybe, it’s just simply the physical act of placing our hearts within a few inches of each other. Affection.
The only times hugs are not truly validated is usually at family reunions when totally unknown cousins and old uncles with friendly hands give you courtesy hugs. The hugs you have to endure at church from over fumigated spinsters that smell like a pocket full of warm gummy bears. The Christmas day hug you get from your daughter’s current husband after you give him a new watch and he gives you a set of pie plates. The hug you get from the Greek guy next door, but that’s another blog. Good hugs and not so good hugs, but!…..never a bad hug. They don’t exist unless it’s from an eight hundred pound grizzly bear during the mating cycle.
There are memorable hugs that you carry with you forever. With Wifey at the alter. The hugs of my children at bedtime. Hugs from those same children on their graduation. My daughter’s hug on her wedding day. Grandkid hugs on my birthday. Those long sad hugs with Wifey after our moms passed away.
There is one last hug, which may well be the most important one. The hug you did not give. Your dear grandmother or funny old grand dad. The hug you wish you had given your mom or dad before it was too late. ……one last loving embrace. If only there had been one more chance.
I am blessed to be married to a hugger. My day would be a shambles if I did not get one of her excellent hugs. Two, if I do the laundry. I am totally amazed at how important and precious that common act is at our age. The simple placing of our hearts together.
Charlie
Comments (7)
your music is fantastic… one of my all time favorites.
Yes we all need hugs and a hug heals so many things.
This is a sweet post! Thank you for writing it! I’m SO glad you get hugs! (and I’m glad you do laundry!
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You are so right about those hugs we wish we’d been able to give….or just to give one more. My Mom died this year…and although I always hugged her (and smooched her cheek) every time I saw her, I wish I could give her just one more.
I believe hugs are healing, and are necessary for good emotional and physical health. I am a hugger! My family and friends are used to me. But, I always warn strangers or acquaintances if I’m about to hug, to give them a chance to say ‘yay’ or ‘nay’.
I love giving hugs around Xanga!
And tonight I’m giving
Egg-Nog HUGS!
I do miss hugs in my life. I am a major hugger, so it makes it that much harder. Love the music and the post was wonderful.
Merry Christmas!
I love hugs… they make my day a little brighter
I miss hugs!
There is a tug to be hugged
Certainly you don’t want to put it under a rug.Then there are family folks that bug you to hugAnd of course you wish you did hid under a rug.
Then there are tubs that also want hugsAnd smelly types of hugs in some clubsAnd certainly blogs that talks about hugs.